Systemic coach Zita Tulyahikayo has trust and faith these days: "There is so much potential ripening beneath what some might see as terrible times." As an experienced transgenerational healing, hypnotherapy, and storytelling facilitator, she draws exercises from Systemic Constellations and the Orders of Love to lead Eve's Domain: Rewriting Our Inherited Stories this summer. For now, Zita is sharing her heroes ("my parents"), her joys, and a perfect image of bliss: "Heart openings under a clear lavender blue sky."
What is Esalen to you?
Esalen is a reminder of the promise of life, abundance, and community.
What do you do/are you doing at Esalen?
As a facilitator, I create a space and invite others to agree to the beauty, richness, and abundance of life precisely as it is.
What is your idea of perfect happiness?
Heart openings under a clear lavender blue sky.
What is your greatest fear in your work?
That humans will continue to believe that diversity of thought and beliefs is terrible.
Which living or dead person do you most admire in your field?
Bert Hellinger, the founder of Systemic Family Constellations
What is your greatest extravagance related to your practice?
Returning to my ancestral homelands to connect with love.
What is your current state of mind?
Open and excited. There is so much potential ripening beneath what some might see as terrible times.
What do you consider the most overrated virtue?
Sentimentality
What is the quality you most like in a human?
Non-judgemental
What or who is the greatest love of your life?
Life
What about your work brings you the most happiness?
Meeting people, teaching peace, feeling the relief people feel after a workshop, and traveling.
Which talent would you most like to have?
Horse riding
If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?
I would have 20/20 vision.
What do you consider your greatest achievement?
Living a fully expressed life because I chose to make peace with the past.
If you were to die and come back as a person or a thing, what would it be?
Me
What would living at Esalen for a month be like for you?
Transcendent
What is your most treasured possession?
My glasses
How do you maintain your practice(s) during challenging times?
I go to the sea.
What is your favorite component of your work?
That I create a space for deep soul healing to begin.
What is your most marked characteristic?
Friendly
What do you value most in your work/practice?
Trust, intention, clarity, and a little bit of magic
Who are your inspirations?
Bert Hellinger, Milton Erickson, Virginia Satir, Princess Elizabeth of Toro
Who is your hero of fiction?
Eve
Which historical figure do you most identify with?
Nyabinghi, “mother of abundance”
Who are your heroes in real life?
My parents
What is your greatest regret?
I regret nothing; it’s the only thing I have never done.
How would you like to die?
Quietly, in a warm, sunny, peaceful country.
What is your motto?
Egumeho — Love will prevail
“Remembering to be as self compassionate as I can and praying to the divine that we're all a part of.”
–Aaron
“Prayer, reading, meditation, walking.”
–Karen
“Erratically — which is an ongoing stream of practice to find peace.”
–Charles
“Try on a daily basis to be kind to myself and to realize that making mistakes is a part of the human condition. Learning from our mistakes is a journey. But it starts with compassion and caring. First for oneself.”
–Steve
“Physically: aerobic exercise, volleyball, ice hockey, cycling, sailing. Emotionally: unfortunately I have to work to ‘not care’ about people or situations which may end painfully. Along the lines of ‘attachment is the source of suffering’, so best to avoid it or limit its scope. Sad though because it could also be the source of great joy. Is it worth the risk?“
–Rainer
“It's time for my heart to be nurtured on one level yet contained on another. To go easy on me and to allow my feelings to be validated, not judged harshly. On the other hand, to let the heart rule with equanimity and not lead the mind and body around like a master.”
–Suzanne
“I spend time thinking of everything I am grateful for, and I try to develop my ability to express compassion for myself and others without reservation. I take time to do the things I need to do to keep myself healthy and happy. This includes taking experiential workshops, fostering relationships, and participating within groups which have a similar interest to become a more compassionate and fulfilled being.“
–Peter
“Self-forgiveness for my own judgments. And oh yeah, coming to Esalen.”
–David B.
“Hmm, this is a tough one! I guess I take care of my heart through fostering relationships with people I feel connected to. Spending quality time with them (whether we're on the phone, through messages/letters, on Zoom, or in-person). Being there for them, listening to them, sharing what's going on with me, my struggles and my successes... like we do in the Esalen weekly Friends of Esalen Zoom sessions!”
–Lori
“I remind myself in many ways of the fact that " Love is all there is!" LOVE is the prize and this one precious life is the stage we get to learn our lessons. I get out into nature, hike, camp, river kayak, fly fish, garden, I create, I dance (not enough!), and I remain grateful for each day, each breath, each moment. Being in the moment, awake, and remembering the gift of life and my feeling of gratitude for all of creation.”
–Steven
“My physical heart by limiting stress and eating a heart-healthy diet. My emotional heart by staying in love with the world and by knowing that all disappointment and loss will pass.“
–David Z.
Today, September 29, is World Heart Day. Strike up a conversation with your own heart and as you feel comfortable, encourage others to do the same. As part of our own transformations and self-care, we sometimes ask for others to illuminate and enliven our hearts or speak our love language.
What if we could do this for ourselves too, even if just for today… or to start a heart practice, forever?
Systemic coach Zita Tulyahikayo has trust and faith these days: "There is so much potential ripening beneath what some might see as terrible times." As an experienced transgenerational healing, hypnotherapy, and storytelling facilitator, she draws exercises from Systemic Constellations and the Orders of Love to lead Eve's Domain: Rewriting Our Inherited Stories this summer. For now, Zita is sharing her heroes ("my parents"), her joys, and a perfect image of bliss: "Heart openings under a clear lavender blue sky."
What is Esalen to you?
Esalen is a reminder of the promise of life, abundance, and community.
What do you do/are you doing at Esalen?
As a facilitator, I create a space and invite others to agree to the beauty, richness, and abundance of life precisely as it is.
What is your idea of perfect happiness?
Heart openings under a clear lavender blue sky.
What is your greatest fear in your work?
That humans will continue to believe that diversity of thought and beliefs is terrible.
Which living or dead person do you most admire in your field?
Bert Hellinger, the founder of Systemic Family Constellations
What is your greatest extravagance related to your practice?
Returning to my ancestral homelands to connect with love.
What is your current state of mind?
Open and excited. There is so much potential ripening beneath what some might see as terrible times.
What do you consider the most overrated virtue?
Sentimentality
What is the quality you most like in a human?
Non-judgemental
What or who is the greatest love of your life?
Life
What about your work brings you the most happiness?
Meeting people, teaching peace, feeling the relief people feel after a workshop, and traveling.
Which talent would you most like to have?
Horse riding
If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?
I would have 20/20 vision.
What do you consider your greatest achievement?
Living a fully expressed life because I chose to make peace with the past.
If you were to die and come back as a person or a thing, what would it be?
Me
What would living at Esalen for a month be like for you?
Transcendent
What is your most treasured possession?
My glasses
How do you maintain your practice(s) during challenging times?
I go to the sea.
What is your favorite component of your work?
That I create a space for deep soul healing to begin.
What is your most marked characteristic?
Friendly
What do you value most in your work/practice?
Trust, intention, clarity, and a little bit of magic
Who are your inspirations?
Bert Hellinger, Milton Erickson, Virginia Satir, Princess Elizabeth of Toro
Who is your hero of fiction?
Eve
Which historical figure do you most identify with?
Nyabinghi, “mother of abundance”
Who are your heroes in real life?
My parents
What is your greatest regret?
I regret nothing; it’s the only thing I have never done.
How would you like to die?
Quietly, in a warm, sunny, peaceful country.
What is your motto?
Egumeho — Love will prevail
“Remembering to be as self compassionate as I can and praying to the divine that we're all a part of.”
–Aaron
“Prayer, reading, meditation, walking.”
–Karen
“Erratically — which is an ongoing stream of practice to find peace.”
–Charles
“Try on a daily basis to be kind to myself and to realize that making mistakes is a part of the human condition. Learning from our mistakes is a journey. But it starts with compassion and caring. First for oneself.”
–Steve
“Physically: aerobic exercise, volleyball, ice hockey, cycling, sailing. Emotionally: unfortunately I have to work to ‘not care’ about people or situations which may end painfully. Along the lines of ‘attachment is the source of suffering’, so best to avoid it or limit its scope. Sad though because it could also be the source of great joy. Is it worth the risk?“
–Rainer
“It's time for my heart to be nurtured on one level yet contained on another. To go easy on me and to allow my feelings to be validated, not judged harshly. On the other hand, to let the heart rule with equanimity and not lead the mind and body around like a master.”
–Suzanne
“I spend time thinking of everything I am grateful for, and I try to develop my ability to express compassion for myself and others without reservation. I take time to do the things I need to do to keep myself healthy and happy. This includes taking experiential workshops, fostering relationships, and participating within groups which have a similar interest to become a more compassionate and fulfilled being.“
–Peter
“Self-forgiveness for my own judgments. And oh yeah, coming to Esalen.”
–David B.
“Hmm, this is a tough one! I guess I take care of my heart through fostering relationships with people I feel connected to. Spending quality time with them (whether we're on the phone, through messages/letters, on Zoom, or in-person). Being there for them, listening to them, sharing what's going on with me, my struggles and my successes... like we do in the Esalen weekly Friends of Esalen Zoom sessions!”
–Lori
“I remind myself in many ways of the fact that " Love is all there is!" LOVE is the prize and this one precious life is the stage we get to learn our lessons. I get out into nature, hike, camp, river kayak, fly fish, garden, I create, I dance (not enough!), and I remain grateful for each day, each breath, each moment. Being in the moment, awake, and remembering the gift of life and my feeling of gratitude for all of creation.”
–Steven
“My physical heart by limiting stress and eating a heart-healthy diet. My emotional heart by staying in love with the world and by knowing that all disappointment and loss will pass.“
–David Z.
Today, September 29, is World Heart Day. Strike up a conversation with your own heart and as you feel comfortable, encourage others to do the same. As part of our own transformations and self-care, we sometimes ask for others to illuminate and enliven our hearts or speak our love language.
What if we could do this for ourselves too, even if just for today… or to start a heart practice, forever?
Systemic coach Zita Tulyahikayo has trust and faith these days: "There is so much potential ripening beneath what some might see as terrible times." As an experienced transgenerational healing, hypnotherapy, and storytelling facilitator, she draws exercises from Systemic Constellations and the Orders of Love to lead Eve's Domain: Rewriting Our Inherited Stories this summer. For now, Zita is sharing her heroes ("my parents"), her joys, and a perfect image of bliss: "Heart openings under a clear lavender blue sky."
What is Esalen to you?
Esalen is a reminder of the promise of life, abundance, and community.
What do you do/are you doing at Esalen?
As a facilitator, I create a space and invite others to agree to the beauty, richness, and abundance of life precisely as it is.
What is your idea of perfect happiness?
Heart openings under a clear lavender blue sky.
What is your greatest fear in your work?
That humans will continue to believe that diversity of thought and beliefs is terrible.
Which living or dead person do you most admire in your field?
Bert Hellinger, the founder of Systemic Family Constellations
What is your greatest extravagance related to your practice?
Returning to my ancestral homelands to connect with love.
What is your current state of mind?
Open and excited. There is so much potential ripening beneath what some might see as terrible times.
What do you consider the most overrated virtue?
Sentimentality
What is the quality you most like in a human?
Non-judgemental
What or who is the greatest love of your life?
Life
What about your work brings you the most happiness?
Meeting people, teaching peace, feeling the relief people feel after a workshop, and traveling.
Which talent would you most like to have?
Horse riding
If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?
I would have 20/20 vision.
What do you consider your greatest achievement?
Living a fully expressed life because I chose to make peace with the past.
If you were to die and come back as a person or a thing, what would it be?
Me
What would living at Esalen for a month be like for you?
Transcendent
What is your most treasured possession?
My glasses
How do you maintain your practice(s) during challenging times?
I go to the sea.
What is your favorite component of your work?
That I create a space for deep soul healing to begin.
What is your most marked characteristic?
Friendly
What do you value most in your work/practice?
Trust, intention, clarity, and a little bit of magic
Who are your inspirations?
Bert Hellinger, Milton Erickson, Virginia Satir, Princess Elizabeth of Toro
Who is your hero of fiction?
Eve
Which historical figure do you most identify with?
Nyabinghi, “mother of abundance”
Who are your heroes in real life?
My parents
What is your greatest regret?
I regret nothing; it’s the only thing I have never done.
How would you like to die?
Quietly, in a warm, sunny, peaceful country.
What is your motto?
Egumeho — Love will prevail
“Remembering to be as self compassionate as I can and praying to the divine that we're all a part of.”
–Aaron
“Prayer, reading, meditation, walking.”
–Karen
“Erratically — which is an ongoing stream of practice to find peace.”
–Charles
“Try on a daily basis to be kind to myself and to realize that making mistakes is a part of the human condition. Learning from our mistakes is a journey. But it starts with compassion and caring. First for oneself.”
–Steve
“Physically: aerobic exercise, volleyball, ice hockey, cycling, sailing. Emotionally: unfortunately I have to work to ‘not care’ about people or situations which may end painfully. Along the lines of ‘attachment is the source of suffering’, so best to avoid it or limit its scope. Sad though because it could also be the source of great joy. Is it worth the risk?“
–Rainer
“It's time for my heart to be nurtured on one level yet contained on another. To go easy on me and to allow my feelings to be validated, not judged harshly. On the other hand, to let the heart rule with equanimity and not lead the mind and body around like a master.”
–Suzanne
“I spend time thinking of everything I am grateful for, and I try to develop my ability to express compassion for myself and others without reservation. I take time to do the things I need to do to keep myself healthy and happy. This includes taking experiential workshops, fostering relationships, and participating within groups which have a similar interest to become a more compassionate and fulfilled being.“
–Peter
“Self-forgiveness for my own judgments. And oh yeah, coming to Esalen.”
–David B.
“Hmm, this is a tough one! I guess I take care of my heart through fostering relationships with people I feel connected to. Spending quality time with them (whether we're on the phone, through messages/letters, on Zoom, or in-person). Being there for them, listening to them, sharing what's going on with me, my struggles and my successes... like we do in the Esalen weekly Friends of Esalen Zoom sessions!”
–Lori
“I remind myself in many ways of the fact that " Love is all there is!" LOVE is the prize and this one precious life is the stage we get to learn our lessons. I get out into nature, hike, camp, river kayak, fly fish, garden, I create, I dance (not enough!), and I remain grateful for each day, each breath, each moment. Being in the moment, awake, and remembering the gift of life and my feeling of gratitude for all of creation.”
–Steven
“My physical heart by limiting stress and eating a heart-healthy diet. My emotional heart by staying in love with the world and by knowing that all disappointment and loss will pass.“
–David Z.
Today, September 29, is World Heart Day. Strike up a conversation with your own heart and as you feel comfortable, encourage others to do the same. As part of our own transformations and self-care, we sometimes ask for others to illuminate and enliven our hearts or speak our love language.
What if we could do this for ourselves too, even if just for today… or to start a heart practice, forever?
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